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Question: Bully Parents

How do you handle bully parents in a school or on the board--the ones that think they no it all and see nothing wrong with putting you down in public, making nasty comments. . but worse, others don't call them on it. I serve on a board in which we have a kingpin dad who is out of control ego wise--thinks he's running his own company, not equal to other members in voice. And it's not a control board either. But his during meetings and emails are threatening, belittling toward me. But he's got other non-parent members thinking he's Mr. Perfect. The outgoing principal was the only one who saw that. . the pastor sort of does, but he's hot and cold himself. I'm terrified of this man. HELP.


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Rose C writes:
Take heart in knowing you are not alone. There's a reason our article on dealing with difficult people is one of our most-read pieces. I think you will find some helpful suggestions in it.

There are bullies in this world, including grown up ones. If this fellow was truly confident, he wouldn't need to throw his weight around and belittle people at meetings. But, it happens. So, the best we can do is try to accept that he likely won't change and find ways to be confident, state your own opinions, and try to ignore stupid remarks. Try to stay focused on why you are involved -- to help the kids and be part of the school community. He can't take that away from you.

One thing, though. You do use the word "threatening'' and you say you are "terrified'' of him. If he has actually threatened you with any harm, go to the authorities.

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