As one of this forum’s most veteran members, I too am very surprised we've never had a principal post. After my 11 years working with parent groups and many discussions with 20+ year principals, I'll be even more candid than you were.

Parent groups are a principal's best resource and worst nightmare all rolled up into one. Even for a GREAT principal - it's not easy. You have concerns far beyond what the typical parent understands. Each year can be a roller coaster. You can have a fantastic year (or span of years) when the group accomplishes far more than expected. Then it all falls apart with a flaky president, a board that can't get along, or someone with a personal agenda.

You are trying to oversee employees (teachers/staff), deal with students, manage a building, adhere to more policies than you can track, and deal with volunteers - who tend to run amuck at least once in awhile, no matter how well-intentioned. You get to play referee with all parties and oh-by-the-way try to ensure some education occurs with the students.

And all the while, the parent org is claiming "independence". But YOU get the calls from every parent who disagrees with how funds were used, how a PTO meeting was conducted, or why XYZ fundraiser was approved. If - heaven forbid - there's embezzlement or a serious problem within the PTO/PTA, the school's reputation is tarnished.

I am a long time proponent of parent groups and volunteers in school. But your job is not easy. I freely admit I would never have the patience or energy. I applaud your input and forbearance! Your expectations are quite fair.