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Getting Mistreated By Pto Board

17 years 2 months ago #127057 by Unregistered
Replied by Unregistered on topic RE: Getting Mistreated By Pto Board
To outsiders, it could EASILY look like aconflict of interest situaiton, regardless of the facts and proper ethics and rule following procedures that were involved.

If you are on the board, and you really want that job you were properly voted to get, then you do have to accept the consequences of the whole perspective issue, becuase it probably wont go away and might be in the minds of ohters who arent involved and havent said anything to you.

Its basically something only you can decide on, if the benefits of keeping the won bid outweigh these types of downsides which you are experiecing now, the whole perspective matter.

Also, if you are a 501c3 group, you might check if its even allowed to have board members bid on jobs paid for by the same organization.
17 years 3 months ago #127054 by Unregistered
Replied by Unregistered on topic RE: Getting Mistreated By Pto Board
The hole thing is that we are planning our yearly father daughter dance and we had to vote on a photographer. well me being one put my bid in along with another person and I won and now the other person is complaining about it and what's us to have another vote. but we had a vote at out monthly meeting and everyone voted for me. also she is saying that I am on the borad that I got to see her bid, but I did not see it. I am not really sure what to do about it. But I feel that I am getting treated unfar because I did what I was suppose to do. and the other person does not want to lose so she is trying to find things wrong with my bid. saying I copied hers. but not true. I was even nice enough to call her to have he put her bid in when the time came. but I am the one who looks bad becouse of her. and my board is saying that ow I have to step down as head fundraiser person. I am not sure why. I need some help on what to do. thanks
17 years 3 months ago #127053 by Unregistered
Replied by Unregistered on topic RE: Getting Mistreated By Pto Board
'mean girl' tactics (see the book by that title) mentioned above refers to bullying tactics done by females and are prevalent in workplace as wel as volunteer organizations, basically anywhere people come together and work together sets the potential stage for those kinds of things.
IF you think that is what is going on, there are plenty of books out there on how to deal with bulies in the workplace, as well as web infos.
It is a problem in many organizations and its worst when the managers or those in charge are the ones doing the bullying. If its not bullying then good old fashioned communication and face to face addressing the root issues and agreeing on a solution is always the best first step so ther are no misunderstandings.
good luck.
17 years 3 months ago #127043 by CrewChief
Well, that's a wide open question! I'm sorry to hear that you feel mistreated. When we go into volunteer work it's usually with the best intentions and the hopes for a positive experience. It's hard to offer advice without knowing the very basic structure of the situation. Advice would vary based on personality issues, "Mean Girl" tactics, different interpretations of bylaws or issues, general disagreements about what your group should or shouldn't do. I guess without knowing any of that I'd suggest that you ask yourself the following questions:

1. What is the root of the problem? (personal, business, legal)
2. Am I contributing to it? (sensitive, rigid opinion, not following bylaws)
3. Is there a way to a solution? (Can they/I change?)
4. Am I willing to help work toward a solution?
5. If there's no light at the end of the tunnel, do I stay or do I go? (Is it worth it to you?)

Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for awhile and leave footprints on our hearts. And we are never, ever the same."

"The ultimate aim of karate lies not in victory or defeat but in the true perfection of one's character."
17 years 3 months ago #127041 by twinma
What Would You Do If You Know That You Are Getting Mistreated By Tyour Schools Pto Board And You Are Also On The Board?
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