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Vp of PTO husband a registred sex offender

16 years 11 months ago #132468 by Voice of Reason (VOR)
Replied by Voice of Reason (VOR) on topic RE: Vp of PTO husband a registred sex offender
I fully agree with the majority of the people responding to “mason” here that the SO's crime and status has nothing to do with the woman’s job on the PTO.

I have a few questions for "mason" that I think everyone should consider before passing judgment.

1. Have you asked any one who she was taking pictures of and why. I personally have asked other parents to take pictures of my children at events, as I had forgotten my camera and they were already taking pictures of there own kids. The reason I ask is if this is the case, is because then she is not even acting on the behalf of the PTO or School and neither the school, the PTO and anyone else has any business in the action between to friends.

2. Do you know how many sex offenders live in your area that are not following the rules by notifying the registry? Does your school check the ID's of every person who attends an even as a guest, like a dance, or any other after school event to make sure RSO's from the next town over aren't attending? What about the molesters who haven’t been caught yet? I’m not saying they should give this guy a break, but it sounds like he is following all the rules and doing right by his mistake, and the wife is paying the price for him being good.

3. Have you witnessed the husband anywhere near the school since the issue was brought to the schools attention?

4. Do you have the complete documented facts behind the husband’s conviction and the situation behind the arrest? If not, did you ask the source? Or are you just assuming the worst?

And Lastly, 5. Do you or any of the others you claim are scared volunteer? The reason I ask this is logic tells me that if the scared individuals volunteered then they would have gotten to know this VP and this would not be new information for them, besides, someone must have voted her in. If they were so concerned why didn’t they vote for someone else?
16 years 11 months ago #132466 by pals
why take away the one thing that may be going right in her life? I know alot of people who volunteer because it makes them feel good about themselves, makes that involved and be around people who make a positive impact on their lifes...being around others may be the only thing keeping this lady going. I am sure that if her husband is on school property that the school knows what it can and can not do, the last thing any school would want is to open themselves up to anything happening. Dont make this against this poor lady.

"When you stop learning you stop growing."
16 years 11 months ago #132462 by jurijeka
It should put your mind at ease to know that the principal is aware and the school is taking measures to ensure safety.

At this point, I think going to the newspapers and firing a rumor mill is vigilante-like just as WFS mentioned. This lady is not the criminal and she and her children should not be persecuted.

Stay cautious and keep an eye out, but to do anymore would edge on just being mean.
16 years 11 months ago #132459 by Lady Dragon
My ex-hubby molested my daughter when she was 12 she is nwo 17. He is now in lock up again(he got 1 yr sentence and 3 yrs probation). I was on PTA board when it happened. I am getting ready to create a PTA in Anderson. I am not the one who molested any one, but I sure felt like I was on trial. I am one for getting Police Checks done. This is one way to be sure of your volunteers. I take every measure possible to make sure ALL children are safe!
16 years 11 months ago #132455 by WFS
Masonbebaby2,

You are holding this against your Vice President when the offender was her husband. I don't think the principal could or should ask her to step down. However, as previously stated, she should not be allow to take pictures on behalf of the PTO. If she takes pictures of her own child at an event, it is one thing, but not of other children due to the situation and, as another brought up, not all children are allowed to have their pictures taken. By stepping down, it wouldn't stop her from volunteering for every event anyway, so the VP role isn't a concern here.

The Principal should have a conversation with her to remind her that her husband is not allowed at the school (if that is district & school policy as well as the law in your state). It would be his job to make sure it doesn't happen. By word spreading, its more likely to create an ugly situation (vigilante-like) that can only have a negative effect on students. This may escalate to the point that all your volunteers are fingerprinted & get a background check or they are not allowed to volunteer at the school!

The only PTO matter here is does her involvement & bringing information home (names & addresses, pictures, etc.) put any child at risk with her husband. Otherwise, its a school and local law enforcement issue.

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16 years 11 months ago #132451 by Voice of Reason (VOR)
Replied by Voice of Reason (VOR) on topic RE: Vp of PTO husband a registred sex offender
he cant ask her to leave, but he CERTAINLY has the authority to control her activities (approve/disapprove) while at school, ie photography. that goes for ALL parents, not just that particular one.
ie some schools ban ALL photography, just fyi. ie no cameras allowed period. others require prior authorization from staff.
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