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Unable to continue to serve under new president

4 years 7 months ago #167245 by HuskyPride
I'm really having a hard time reconciling my feeling of being unable to work with our recently elected PTA president and the fact that I would be really causing a huge problem for my board if I was to resign.

I am the treasurer, who has spent the last year cleaning up prior treasurers mistakes, I handle spirit wear, I am heavily involved in our upcoming spring carnival, but our new president is just impossible to work with. His ego is completely out of control because he brought in a couple of corporate donations (literally, soup for about 30 teachers and candy for about half of our students at the holidays, that's it) and he just has no regard for the rules when it comes to things like budget, the payment authorization process, things we are and are not allowed to do. The guy is a loose canon, I feel like it's only a matter of time before he does or says something that is going to have some really serious consequences.

Now he has turned around and upset one of our board members to the point where she has resigned, and he is unwilling to do anything to resolve it. For me it's the final straw, I can't trust him, I don't want to be associated with him, I just want out. I just don't know how to go about it without making things really difficult for everyone else.
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4 years 7 months ago - 4 years 7 months ago #167251 by Rose H
Hi HuskyPride,

Sounds like you are in a difficult situation and you worry about what you do and how it will affect others is really something.

A couple of things. Is there anyone else on the board? Can you and whoever remains ask this new president to a meeting and raise these concerns? If the president refuses, can you reach out to the principal and ask for some help -- perhaps the principal could sit in on a board meeting and try to help your remaining team at least look at the issues that have come up and are making it difficult for your board to function. It sounds like this new president doesn't really get how a parent group board is supposed to work.


If you feel that this situation is beyond repair, then you need to take care of yourself and do what is best for you. It will be March in just two days. Do you want to hang in there until elections at the end of the school year and then step down? It sounds like you've worked really hard on behalf of your group and your school, but now you need need to do what works for you.

Keep in touch,
Rose C.
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4 years 7 months ago #167262 by HuskyPride
Thanks Rose, I ended up deciding to remain in office through the end of the school year but informed the board that I would not return. Things are really complicated by the fact that he has close personal friendships with some of the other board members, who share my concerns but don't want to rock the boat. Since I informed him of my decision he has reacted very childishly, so it's going to be a long few months! The sad thing is walking away from all of my hard work, because of someone who will likely destroy the organization and lead to it being dismantled, but you can't make others do what they don't want to.
4 years 7 months ago #167264 by Rose H
Hi HuskyPride,
My guess is you'll feel good at the end of the school year about hanging in there and doing the best you could. NOt surprised he responded childishly based on your description of the scenario. If he's as off kilter as you say, more people will complain -- even those who don't want to rock the boat right now.

Take care,
Rose
4 years 7 months ago #167268 by HuskyPride
Thanks again Rose, great advice as always.
4 years 5 months ago #167412 by PTOSunshine
I think if you care about the organization, you may want to force the issues. Why should you leave to the detriment of the PTO, and leave someone who may be harmful to the PTO's health?

I don't know the details, but if the rules for budget and spending are not followed, then either behavior has to change or the rules have to be changed (according to processes set in place for changing rules). I would press this issue.

In terms of leadership style, everyone is going to be different. Again, I don't know what the details are, but if this president already ran off one board member, it would be useful to have a compassionate, mature, conversation about how to play well with others and keep volunteers.

Don't forget that you're a leader of this organization, too, and you have experience. So be a leader and help this person develop better leadership skills!

Alternatively, impeach him. My organization did that several years ago, with a president who was not good for our PTO.
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